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So you know those moments and I'm sure every body's had one of these at least once in their lifetime... If not I suppose your lucky in a way...
But for me reflection is something that happens to me almost on a daily basis and though it was a nuisance when I was younger, it is now one of my strongest assets. Only because it allows a certain amount of stepping back from all situations little or big, and in doing so therefore allows a "bigger picture" type perspective to also be incorporated into daily decisions and tasks...
So now to the point... This particular moment is the one where your usually doing the mundane and you're thinking back.. Often with thought of "what if I had done this then, instead of that...." or "If only I hadn't done that..." or the destructive " I really wish I hadn't done that...". These thoughts can only be helpful in small doses and if they are few and far between...
But to allow oneself to dwell for long periods of time in these thought processes can ultimately be damaging to ones confidence and self esteem... NOT GOOD..
So it's important I feel for individuals to understand that even though we may find ourselves in hard and uncomfortable circumstances, and regardless of whether those circumstances were of our own doing or beyond our control, nothing that has happened can be changed or altered, future reactions can equal them out, but you can't change the past...
Reality is most of the time no matter how much you wish something wasn't or is... you will probably find that some other circumstance that more than likely will prove positive, would never of occurred if things had not gone wrong or happened the way they did...
This basically is the whole "Every dark cloud has a silver lining" metaphoric moment... but regardless I felt the need to share the fact that they occur, as these moments are a part of everyday 'Life'...
But to be able to live an ultimately fulfilling 'Life'... it's important that these type of moments are recognised and accredited because they provide us with hindsight perspective... also it contributes to the whole aspect of problem solving....
But the ultimate aim in 'Life'... is to always look and move forward, no matter the setbacks... it's with these moments, combined with the determination to succeed, that we gain wisdom and knowledge to always be able to deal easier and better with all of 'Life's.. unpredictable and sometimes predictable circumstances...
Therefore to succeed in 'Life'... it is simply allowing ourselves to always and relentlessly grow....
